From Arlene: How Do You Keep Going When All You Want To Do Is Quit?

From Arlene: How Do You Keep Going When All You Want To Do Is Quit?

Leadership | Posted by YouInc.com - February 19, 2016 at 1:00 am
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We are entrepreneurs. It’s a lifestyle that we have embraced because, honestly, we couldn’t imagine doing anything else. The lifespan of any entrepreneurial success story is full of nooks, crannies, highs and lows, not to mention depression and elation. And we, of course, always say we wouldn’t have it any other way. But let’s be honest. Sometimes the lifestyle can become horribly overwhelming: business issues, personal challenges and just the sheer loneliness of it all. People always coming to you with questions to which you don’t have the answers. There are days when you know something is going to give.

This is when we borrow heavily on the goodwill and trust of our teams and our families. It’s when we hope we can lean on someone else to just get us through the rough patch. Unfortunately, our teams and our families don’t always have the reserves we need, at the times we need them. So then what happens? Well that’s what I would describe as a perfect storm. You are tired. Your team is spent. Your energy is low and, frankly, you’re just done in.

It’s hard to be the leader of the pack when you want to just slink away. It’s hard to not want to simply stop and say, “Okay, I am done.” Cheerleading is hard. Cheerleading for a team that is feeling beaten down is even harder. But that’s the job you signed up for. That’s the role of being a leader.

I know this, and I know that there is only one place to turn when you are feeling any of these ways as an entrepreneur in business: you must turn to yourself.After 30 years of being in business, I continue to be surprised by the depth of energy and commitment it takes to run a company. I watch as entrepreneurs struggle at both ends of the spectrum. Sometimes it’s because managing growth and success are overwhelming them. Sometimes it’s because culture and personnel changes are creating havoc. Sometimes it’s because they feel it’s not worth the personal price they must pay. And sometimes, just sometimes, it’s because their own self-doubt starts to make them second-guess everything.

You have to dig deep. You need to examine your path and see if you are part of the problem. You must ask yourself how to manage through the pain of the moment to get to the success on the other side. And, most of all, you MUST NOT QUIT.

Sure, you may need to make changes. You may need to change paths. But as long as you don’t quit on yourself, you will be able to help others through that perfect storm. And you will be better armed to manage the next perfect storm. Because just as the sun will shine tomorrow, another storm will most certainly appear.

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Darlene Cresswell
May 20, 2014 at 9:18 am
great insight... and just what i needed to hear!!
Mandy Woytkiw
May 20, 2014 at 11:34 am
I am really struggling with growth and success growing pains. I had no idea how lonely entrepreneurship would be... I feel overwhelmed most days and have to stop and review. Thank you for posting this I am halfway through your book and I feel less lo ely in this adventure.♡
Francois Robillard
May 20, 2014 at 4:34 pm
Great article and so true! The best feelings I've had as an entrepreneur have been from embracing previously unforeseen changes and emerging from serious adversity.

“If you are going through hell, keep going.” ― Winston Churchill
Raman Chatha
May 21, 2014 at 5:51 pm
Hi Arlene, this is like reading my mind it's amazing how we search for answers and they do get answered. It truly is a struggle and I'm at that breaking point not knowing which direction to take.. Pls
Diane Petryna
May 21, 2014 at 5:58 pm
You're Arlene, "never to quit on yourself." That's why a few years ago, I start "investing in me" and hired myself a terrific retail business coach. Top performers in every field have coaches so why not me? My team and I are now playing our best and winning. Thanks coach and thanks Arlene.
Anila Aliko
May 22, 2014 at 1:26 pm
Great article and so true. You must turn to yourself , invest in yourself , pay yourself first . It truly is a struggle but it is worth it . Effort only fully releases its reward after a person refuses to quit.Napoleon Hill
There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure.

Colin Powell

Read more at http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/topics/topic_business.html#J4tSdd02rEMHHKIF.99

Napoleon Hill

Read more at http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/topics/topic_business.html#J4tSdd02rEMHHKIF.99

Effort only fully releases its reward after a person refuses to quit.

Napoleon Hill

Read more at http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/topics/topic_business.html#J4tSdd02rEMHHKIF.99
Rhonda Stark
May 22, 2014 at 5:09 pm
I think when we begin the journey as an Entrepreneur, we just can't fully comprehend what it will take to be a success, the scope of all we must do to achieve our goals, and how quickly our support network shrinks when things get overwhelming. Only as we are in the midst of our journey do we really get it. But I agree absolutely, Arlene, knowing from the beginning that we are ultimately responsible for our own success is key. Our journey won't always be easy, we must be willing to take a step back or make changes sometimes in order to stay on our path, and connecting with other like-minded professionals with whom we can learn from, and bounce ideas off of from time to time, keeps us motivated, accountable, and better equipped to achieve our goals!
Christine Evans
May 23, 2014 at 5:25 pm
All of what you said is so true. I went from 29 years of being a nurse in a union to being a business owner. More of a vertical assent than a steep learning curve. Thanks for the encouragement
Cheryl Dawn
May 23, 2014 at 5:27 pm
Thanks Arlene for helping us feel less alone in our entrepreneurial journey. I find that confidential business groups can provide amazing support professionally and personally. I have 2 different business groups to share my wins and losses with. I highly value the connection and sharing in these groups.
Ottlie Munro
May 23, 2014 at 5:50 pm
Thank you for this!
Mark Morin
May 23, 2014 at 5:58 pm
Inspiring words of wisdom indeed. Whether things go right or wrong one ought always reflect on what things one must start stop or continue doing. Sometimes we may be the problem & sometimes not. When it comes to problems associated with change ( innovation ) a wise man once wrote ... Ago old prolem; "It must be remembered that there is nothing more difficult to plan, more doubtful of success, nor more dangerous to manage than the creation of a new system. For the initiator has the enmity of all those who profit from the preservation of the old institution and merely the lukewarm defence of those who gain by the new ones" ….Machiavelli
… so when adversity stares us in the face we must dare press through it … just as in the life of Joseph of the bible, having been betrayed and forsaken even by his own brothers, who likewise by looking inward gained great courage and wisdom, enough to eventually become the second most powerful person in the world, by way of his confidence in the “creator of the universe”, …as Arlen suggests if you look deep enough in your own heart I too am convinced you’ll find a way “to manage through the pain of the moment to get to the success on the other side. And, most of all, you MUST NOT QUIT”. Best, Mark
Anthony
May 23, 2014 at 6:18 pm
Great article Arlene and a BIG "thumbs up" to Mark M for referencing Joseph and his journey (story is close to my heart). After 25 years of owning businesses, with as many failures and successes, and on the verge of crossing the 50 year old mark (now about to cast my shadow), I was struggling with the thought of starting another business and all the energy that goes into that venture. As a serial entrepreneur I know no better 'vocation' than the this path and have taken from you both enough inspiration to get be back on track and into gear. Thanks for the nudge !!
Robert S Bazzo
May 23, 2014 at 6:56 pm
Enjoyed the article. I have been an entrepreneur for close to 10 years now and currently working hard to get my latest passion off the ground. I would like to share this definition for success that I often lean on for perspective during those most challenging moments: "Success is the progressive realization of a worthy goal or the pursuit of a worthy ideal." I hope this helps keep you going.
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Beth Craig
May 26, 2014 at 10:19 am
It is somehow ironic to turn to yourself to resolve how to keep going when it is often your own self-doubt that gets in the way. What gets me through the second-guessing hurdle is nevertheless just that. I find that success comes more freely when I allow myself the freedom to think. Thinking gets turned into a plan and the plan leads to actions. Thinking can involve reading, watching inspirational videos, identifying like-minded individuals / businesses that could be pivotal partners or just generally exploring ideas on getting beyond a current challenge. I have started designating certain days of the week to thinking days and others to “moving forward” days. It all helps to keep focus on the larger goal.
Linsey Hulls
June 4, 2014 at 12:52 pm
Thank you for sharing your expertise, it came at the perfect time. You're such an inspirational woman yet so real at the same time as I witnessed during your speech at the #mSummit in Vancouver. I'm at a crossroads in my photography business where either I go after what I really want which is to be a behind the scenes branding & fashion photographer or get a "real job" as I like to call it, working for someone else. Deep down all I want is to succeed at what I love. Time to make that leap of faith.
Faith Chipman
June 27, 2014 at 10:02 pm
I have re-read this article numerous times and thought about it over the last month often. Of course I had a two-week trial like no other in my career as entrepreneur. I disagree. I disagree that in order to turn things around I must dig deep. I dig deep all the time and give more than I receive all of the time. Happily-willingly. Most days, my endeavours don't feel like work. It's a joy. But depleted, in moments of loneliness, and despair I must reach outside of myself. Then I go to the forest to bseek the Divine and become re-newed. It might not sound flashy or tough or 'scrappy' but it works. Over and over-eEVERY time. :)
Madlyn Doey
October 26, 2014 at 6:05 am
I am 64 years old, starting my life over with nearly nothing, I am good at what I do and trust I am able to do it well. I am very good at what I do, I am not afraid of failure with my work nor results. I am afraid of my age and starting all over. I was a stay at home Mom. I really need my business to be sucessful. I am afraid I cannot keep up. Building a group of support is hard but it is on the way. This site is awesome it is helping me a lot. Thank you all for your iinput.
Joe Wasylyk
January 10, 2015 at 1:47 pm
Young entrepreneurs (18-39) years old are often over optimistic and they under estimate the commitment of time and resources required to become a real entrepreneur. Can you imagine how a Seniorpreneur feels when he/she realizes the gap there is between what you've learned in the past and what you need to learn now in order for your business idea to become successful.
Cheryl Zealand
March 3, 2016 at 6:46 pm
I "quit" weekly it seems these days . Thank you for this article Arlene, I will refer to it when the overwhelming pressures of leading and growing a business rears its ugly head!
Judy Mann
March 7, 2016 at 9:46 am
This was a right inspiration on the right day for me. Thanks!
Cedar Thokme
March 21, 2016 at 11:53 am
Emmm.... if u really wanna quit then you don't like what you're doing so you should quit. LOL
Cedar Thokme
March 21, 2016 at 11:55 am
...but if you're tired, yes, like Arlene has describe it - Recharge - don't quit!
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March 21, 2016 at 11:56 am
This is one way to recharge http://www.sacredfiremusic.com/
Shirley Bailey
August 19, 2017 at 10:57 am
Arlene ... so glad to have this opportunity to share with you and other entrepreneurs. No where in the comments below by others did I see "God" mentioned anywhere. From the fall of October 2015 my life changed to something I can't imagine (even today). Watching TV 7 am on a Sunday morning I watched Dr. Charles Stanley (In Touch Ministries) where he explained how to become a Christian and a Child of God. To keep this as short as I can... I followed his invitation and became a "born again Christian". In the Bible is states... "ask and you shall receive"... knock and it shall be opened unto you". I can't tell you how many times I've asked God to help me with down times in my business (and I've had some dillies... just within this last month I had the absolute worst one)... I prayed, cried, and prayed and prayed. He led me to a solution which solved the problem the very day it occurred. I am a member of the First Baptist Church of Atlanta Georgia. I never miss Dr. Stanley's sermon each and every Sunday on TV. I would welcome any comments from other entrepreneurs in You Inc. or indeed answer any questions they might have. I would suggest they watch Dr. Stanley. He's on at 7:00 a.m., 8:00 a.m,. and again Sunday evening. Thank you so much Arlene for the opportunity to share my experience. I only wish God had some into my life many, many years ago. Life and business would have been so much easier.... Sincerely, Shirley Bailey
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