Have you ever asked or prayed for something and promised yourself that if only you get through this, you’ll never ask for anything else again?
I can recall only a few examples, but once I got through it, I prayed for something else, “If only I get myself out of this mess, I’ll never want for anything else again.”
The pot of gold always seems to be just around the corner, and once we get it, we’ll never ask for anything else again. But truth is, we DO ask. So my question to you is: Why is it that as human beings we always want more (or something better) than what we currently have? Is what we have now not good enough? Will it ever be enough? Are we too greedy? Why is happiness a moving target for so many?
Why is it that as human beings we always want more (or something better) than what we currently have?
Now stay with me here. Here’s the flip side: What’s so wrong with trying to achieve and accomplish? What’s so wrong about wanting to self-improve? About wanting to outdo previous accomplishments? Why can’t we reap the benefits of our hard work, and then work for something else once we’ve achieved our goals? What’s wrong with setting the bar high?
As my blog title goes, I’m on the fence here. It can really go either way.
My website traffic was at an all-time high last year. But you know what? It just became no big deal. It became something to simply sustain, and not celebrate. And that could be a problem in my humble opinion, or as we say online, IMHO. The bar keeps getting reset. No appreciation of hard work – it’s simply one goal achieved, next goal set.
I remember back to my eldest son stuttering. I was just praying he would outgrow it as his speech therapist said he would. Watching him struggle to get the words out tortured me and my husband. I nurtured him, spoke softly, and waited 2 minutes sometimes for a sentence to come out. And don’t get me wrong, I was beyond grateful the day that he stopped stuttering, but then something else came up to worry about. Once he was fine, the stuttering was replaced by another concern, and if only we could get through that thing.
Is it the nature of the beast? “I only want to lose 10 pounds and then I’ll be happy”, “I just want to attain sales goal X”.
I ask you today: Do you find yourself often resetting the bar once you’ve attained your goals? Here are a few telltale signs that you’re not living your life to its full potential:
- You find yourself saying things like “If only I…”, “I really wish I could…”, or "As soon as I … I’ll be happy”. If the grass constantly looks greener on the other side, it will be.
- Your job or career is simply a means to an end, to put food on the table or to provide a roof over your head. It’s time to look at making a change – either in your life, or simply in your attitude!
- You spend a lot of time doing “things” to keep your mind occupied so you don’t have to think about what’s really going on with you. Watching too much TV? Drinking too much alcohol as an escape from your reality? What are you running from? It’s best to face the music – whatever that music may sound like.
I’d love to know what you think about our society’s obsession with wanting more – is it normal to always want more for ourselves, or should we start feeling more grateful for what we have?