As a mother, you spend most of your time taking care of others, but how do you treat yourself? Do you give yourself the same level of support and understanding that you offer to the people around you, or are you constantly doubting your skills and berating yourself for sales that you didn’t make and goals that you didn’t achieve? You are an incredible woman who does amazing things on a daily basis. Not convinced? Here are five reasons that you need to give yourself more credit:
You are capable of more than you probably realize.
You are trying to do something that is very difficult. If you are wondering why you are having a tough time balancing the needs of your children with the demands of your business, the answer is simple: It’s hard! Many people wait until their children have grown to launch a business, but you have decided to attempt it all at once. Don’t be disheartened when you stumble sometimes; you are climbing a mountain.
You didn’t lose any of your skills or expertise when you had children. Being a mother can be so consuming that you may even forget who you were before. Your vague memories of your younger self confidently working a room bear little resemblance to the woman who looks back at you in the mirror today. Make no mistake; you are just as smart and skilled as you used to be and your life experience has provided you with a broader perspective.
You are more flexible and resourceful than most people. The ability to adapt to changing circumstances is a necessary skill for an entrepreneur. However, when you have children, you never know when you’re going to have to entertain a room full of kids, make 200 cupcakes at a moment’s notice, or create a Halloween costume with only the contents of your purse. Since resourcefulness improves with practice, mompreneurs are at the top of their game.
You are your toughest critic. If you don’t believe that you are managing well, you should ask the people around you. You may find that everyone but you is consistently impressed by what you are able to accomplish. If you are tougher on yourself than everyone else is, it may be a clue that you need to ease up a bit. Adhering to high standards is a positive way to live your life, beating yourself up all the time isn’t.
Too often, mompreneurs tell themselves, “you are not experienced enough,” “you are not skilled enough,” “you are not...enough.” This negative self-talk can paralyze you as it makes it difficult to take chances and seize opportunities. The truth is that you are capable of more than you probably realize. If you trust in your abilities and in yourself, you may be surprised by what you can do.